Three weeks ago I had a funny feeling in the pit of my tummy; a tiny inkling that something was different.
So I took a test, on my lunch break at work. And found out I was pregnant.
Within 5 hours of receiving the news, I began to bleed. It started off softly, a pinky colour. I was told to not worry too much; it was probably just implantation bleeding.
But once I woke up- it was heavier. And once I got to work, it got heavier.
By the time I got to hospital, it was heavier still. I had started passing a significant amount of tissue. It was starting to look like my new beginning had began to end, within hours of even knowing. To say I was heartbroken wouldn’t even begin to explain the hurt and the grief. It felt like I had been ripped apart and left open; raw.
I am writing this because, much like the topic of mental illness and suicide, the topic of miscarriage seems to cause people to recoil. It breaks my heart that people sit in silence through these things; all alone. It shouldn’t be like that; it shouldn’t be like this.
I know I am not isolated in my experience, but this grief for a life that was ripped away so rapidly is nothing like I have ever experienced. Even in my deepest depression, I had never felt so much so deeply. Exposed.
It was the future I had imagined for us, the life I had carved out as I imagined a little babe in my arms.
I’m not okay. But I know I will be.